I don’t have to tell you that counselling can be seen by some as a last resort or as an indication that something is wrong with you, or that you aren’t capable of sorting through your difficulties on your own. Counselling is exactly the opposite: Individuals who come for counselling are brave, strong and determined to feel better than they do. They are problem solvers who fight for the wellness and betterment of their lives rather resign themselves to what life has become. Come on in - you’ll leave feeling refreshed, hopeful, and empowered!
When you've been in a relationship for a long time (or even a short time!), things can get stale, predictable, quarrelsome, or routine. You may wonder where the spark that ignited the fire of romance went. You may even wonder if this is the same person you fell in love with or if this relationship will last? Can you revitalize and reignite your relationship? Absolutely, and couples counselling can help! We offer couples the opportunity to try out the Gottman Relationship Checkup; some couples like to participate in an at-home-online assessment that will categorize and summarize all aspects of the relationship. This helps both partners to be reassured about all the great aspects along with the areas that are in need of some attention.
Every age, every life stage is the best age and stage to engage in counselling. Every culture, race, and faith can benefit from counselling. There is no problem, concern, grief, transition, wondering or conflict that counselling cannot assist you to shine a new light of perspective and insight onto. Every gender and orientation, all shapes sizes and abilities of bodies are perfectly within the scope of meaningful conversations that occur in while in counselling. Every person across the globe feels, so why not come into counselling and feel supported while you feel your way through the uncomfortable stuff.
Insomnia is a symptom of a nervous system in distress. Sleep is the time for the body to rest, digest and repair. Without even one night's sleep, your body is more prone to illness, your mood negatively impacted, your energy levels turn sluggish and your judgment is impaired. Insomnia drains the body of resiliency and the will of hope. Most people quickly get so desperate that they turn to pharmacology for help... And, most people find this solution as not sustainable. Insomnia can be resolved by re-calibrating your nervous system so that the gas and brake pedals are not both on when your moving towards sleep. Most likely, this also involves renegotiating those traumas that taught your nervous system to stay vigilant with the gas pedal on in the first place.
Depression is the place where, "I can't" lives. Depressed people use the language of, "I can't get up", "I can't go to work", "I can't take care of my kids". In terms of survival theory, depression is a state of overwhelm where the body goes into a hyper-conservation state that leaves the body and emotions feeling dull and numbed. This is a helpful strategy... for very short periods of time when our nervous system needs a break from the "too much" that was going on just before your body felt it was time to protect you by slipping into this state. The hardest thing about Depression is that when your system starts to shift out of this overwhelmed, numb state, it moves back into the very energetic, "too much", rage/panic place it was in just prior to the onset of depression. Depression can be resolved by supporting the nervous system as it makes this transition, re-training it in small and achievable ways to re-learn a sense of "I can".
Anxiety is often associated with Depression because it is where a person is without yet having the overwhelm and shutdown of depression (although, anxiety can definitely feel overwhelming!). It is the place of "too much" and is very uncomfortable. Shortness of breath, sweaty palms, tightness in the chest, nausea and so on, are all symptoms of anxiety. The one symptom people notice the most is the spinning thoughts that won't shut off. Anxiety is not logical and a person in the midst of their anxiety cannot be reasoned with easily. Much like a faulty smoke detector, there is an internal alarm sounding for them, warning them of danger when no danger is present. Resolving anxiety means reprogramming your alarm to only go off when there is real danger present and to otherwise stay in standby mode!